Question: We are trying to finalize addresses right now, and we are wondering what Save the Date etiquette is when it comes to plus ones/guests. There are a few people we are not sure if we should give plus ones to or not. Will the save the date say “Mr. X and Guest” or will it just say “Mr. X” and then the invitation would say "Mr. X and Guest?" Can it be a combination of both?
Answer: Great question! You can put "Mr. X and Guest" on the save the date if you know for sure and just "Mr. X" on the ones where you're not sure (but can put them on the invitations when it's time for that). The only bad thing is to take back - so inviting a "Mr. X and Guest" on the save the date but then on the wedding invite not giving them a guest. Otherwise, you go with what you know for the save the date and can always give them a guest later.
Also, on that note - depending on how formal you get, you can use Mr./Ms./Mrs. or you can go more informal and say Bob and Sally Smith. It's all preference and who you're inviting, too. However you do it, though, I would keep it consistent.
When searching for your perfect wedding dress - there are a few things to keep in mind to make your search runs smoothly.
WHAT is YOUR DRESS BUDGET?
Set your wedding dress budget before the appointment and make sure to stick to it. Don’t try on dresses that go over your budget. It's a great idea to call ahead to the dress boutiques and ask them about price ranges before you stop in. If you fall in love with a dress that you cannot have it will make finding the right dress in your price range close to impossible.
HAVE YOU DONE YOUR RESEARCH?
Look for shops in the area will have the most choices for your price range as well as looking at reviews. You won’t want to travel to a shop just to be disappointed by the service. Also, if you're looking for a specific dress designer or style it's good to know if the boutique carries them.
What Type of Dress are you looking for?
Look online or in magazines to get an idea of what kind of dress you think would best suit you. You don’t have to find your exact dress - just find pieces of styles that you like. Once you have some ideas, pin some pictures of your favorite styles and have the photos handy when at the store. This will help your consultant guide you in the right direction when finding your dress.
That being said, while you think you might want a specific type of dress, be open to trying on a dress or two that aren't in the style type that you think you want. Many have thought they wanted one dress type but have fallen in love with something they never thought they would like.
Who are you bringing to the appointment?
After a long day on trying on dress after dress, the white gowns will slowly begin to blend together and it may be hard to remember which you like and which you don't. By bringing along a team of your best girls, finding a dress will be smooth sailing. While thinking of people to bring, make sure you are choosing people who are open minded and to those that will listen to your opinion as well as those who will be constructive. Remember that honesty is the best policy so it is best to keep in mind that family member or friend that will tell you how they really feel.
Also, don't bring too many people. While everyone has great intentions - well, they also have opinions. This is a big decision and sometimes having too many opinions can be overwhelming.
Last piece of advice: Don't expect to find the perfect dress at the first shop that you go to. You may need to look around to find the dress that is right for you. Don't settle for a dress because you have been shopping for hours. Give it time - the dress will find you.
You have great candidates for your wedding party but you're not sure where to start. Here are some of our tips to narrow your list and pick the perfect wedding party for your special day.
If you are planning a small and intimate affair ten bridesmaids may be a little over excessive. If an extravagant event is more up your alley then ten may not be so bad after all. The average number for a wedding party is 4-6 people on each side.
Talk finance with your fiancé. The larger the wedding party, the more you'll spend on flowers, hair and makeup (if you're covering this), gifts, and more.
Remember that the more people you include - the more opinions there will be about every detail of your planning. Think opinions on dresses, hair and makeup, flowers, and other items you may not want opinions on.
DON'T ASK PEOPLE OUT OF OBLIGATION
Choosing people to be in your wedding party is extremely meaningful because these are the people that you are asking to stand with your and support you on your big day. You don't have to ask someone just because you are afraid that it will hurt their feelings if you don't. Also, you don't have to ask someone to stand up in your wedding just because they asked you. That being said, we do make an exception for your future in-law siblings. It's always great to include them in the wedding if it's possible.
There are other ways to include your loved ones
From ushers and officiants to ring bearers and flower girls, many cultures and religions have fun and traditional ways for people to be included in your wedding. Even if your big day is not going to be extremely associated with you or your partners religions or cultures - do some research on the background of them and if you find an idea that you adore go with it! This will also impress some of your friends and family who may be heavily associated with it.
So, you've been asked to give a toast to the newlyweds on their wedding day.
It's a huge honor that also comes with a large amount of pressure. With our expert tips we've got you covered to create a stress-free, memorable, and tasteful toast.
Tell a Story
Using your own personal experiences illustrate a story highlighting the couple and their relationship with each other. Just remember keep your speech appropriate by staying away from inside jokes and touchy subjects.
Make Sure To Be Yourself
Whether you're sentimental, funny, or serious, great wedding toast come from the heart and are a reflection of the person giving it. Don't be someone you're not.
While giving your speech make sure to project so all of the guests can hear you.
Toast to the couple
At the conclusion of your speech, remember to raise your glass and wish the couple happiness as they transition into this new chapter of their lives.
Just Wing it
Come prepared with you have speech to be proud of. Practice it out loud in the mirror and for a friend who will be honest with you. This will make you more comfortable and also give you an approximate length. This is the time to really polish your speech.
Go Over Time
Long toasts can be deadly. Keep your toast to five minutes and under to leave the crowd wanting more.
It makes you look unprepared and nervous. Write down bullet points on a notecard and use those as a guide for your speech.
Have Too Much To Drink Beforehand
Having a cocktail or glass of wine before the toast to calm your nerves is fine but pace yourself. Alcohol + a microphone = saying things you may regret.
Keep In Mind:
Being chosen to make a toast is your chance to honor the coupled on their big day - as well as - sending them off into their marriage with your best wishes. So don't let stage fright keep you from enjoying and cherishing this moment with them.
Note to the Newlyweds:
Remember to thank your guests! They took the time to travel to where you needed them to be in order to help you celebrate your wedding. Showing them that you appreciate them is not only important, but a must. Your toast does not have to be long, just get your point across and you're golden.